Hindu marriages are not just alliances between the bride and the groom based on a few superficial aspects. They are not done just based on the expectations of the boy and the girl, nor are they based on their aspirations. Alliances are not decided just based on customs and traditions, nor are they made based on professional affiliations, personal attributes, interests, likes and dislikes alone. The foundations of the Hindu marriage system are found at a much deeper level and date back to many centuries, perhaps as old as the very human civilisation itself, where the ancient sages and seers have, in all their wisdom, developed systems, rules, protocols and procedures that facilitate the way alliances are matched and taken forward into successful marital relationships.
There is a whole list of tools that are available at the disposal of a trained practitioner in terms of horoscope matching. There is a good deal of understanding that runs over the centuries in terms of age-old traditions, appreciating the value in taking the time out in coming up with the best match possible. The list of ten poruthams that have become one of the most important considerations when it comes to matchmaking is one such tool that determines the fate of marriage proposals. Hindu marriages give tremendous importance to the poruthams or kootas, which are determined by studying the horoscopes of the prospective bride and the groom. If the poruthams match and the horoscopes are good enough to be considered in unison, the alliance is deemed to be satisfactory and could be used to proceed further without any reason to hesitate.
There are different considerations at stake in the case of each of the ten poruthams that are being matched, and there are various implications behind the way the different poruthams are checked for. Some of the poruthams are at the core of an alliance and are strictly non-negotiable. The others, however, are open to negotiation and could even be overlooked to a certain extent. It is important to know what the ramifications are when it comes to deciding the future courses of action with regard to alliances. One such porutham that is not exactly at the core and one that could be negotiated with some free space to manoeuvre is called the Vasiya Porutham. While none of the ten poruthams should be completely ignored and each of them should be given equal importance, it would help to understand the basis on which they are calculated and what they mean so that the right decisions could be taken with respect to prospective relationships.
Vasiya Porutham in Hindu Marriage:
One of the ten poruthams that are matched when finalising alliances in Hindu marriage is vasiya porutham. The world works on the laws of attraction between the two sexes of living beings – it is the natural attraction between the male and the female that drives creation in this world. If there is to be life, there has to be love. And when cupid strikes, it results in sparks that move hearts closer to each other. This is the phenomenon that defines the success of marriage.
It is one thing to be attracted to one’s partner in the initial stages of a romantic relationship; however, it is quite another factor whether one stays loyal to their spouse and remains attracted to the other well into married life. What would be the degree of affinity that the husband and the wife share a few years into marriage? Would the foundations of life be on love that is everlasting, or would the attractions just be short-lived, leading to future disappointments and crashed expectations? That is what is explored in the realms of vasiya porutham between the boy and the girl at the time of marriage.
How is vasiya porutham calculated?
The defining factor in vasiya porutham is that not every alliance could expect to find it matching. There are strict pairs or sets of signs that match with one another according to the scope of vasiya porutham in Hindu marriage.
As is obvious from the list, the scope of matchmaking based on vasiya porutham is limited by the fact that each of the sign on the part of the girl is matched by just one or two of the signs on the part of the girl. If one were to go strictly by the provisions of vasiya porutham, a girl whose moon sign is Mesham could get married only to a boy whose moon sign is either Simham or Vrichigam. A boy whose sign is Kanni could get married only to a girl whose sign is Midhunam, while Dhanur Raasi girls could get married only to Meenam Raasi boys and so forth. It would be well and good if Vasiya porutham also turns out to be favourable in an alliance, along with those of the other poruthams. However, to expect a relationship to go ahead only if vasiya porutham is in place is an expectation that is severely limiting in the scope of ensuring the right boys and girls for any marriage alliance.
The significance of vasiya porutham:
It is to be borne in mind that there are very few perfect marriages that have all the ten poruthams in place. Invariably, some of the poruthams may not meet their desired expectation levels. That does not mean that the alliance could not go ahead. Vasiya porutham is one such match between the boy and the girl where it would be fantastic to have all the poruthams in place without a hitch. However, it is difficult to expect vasiya porutham to be so impeccable. Hence, in the absence of vasiya porutham, alliances could still be considered and could go ahead, provided the match exists in terms of the other poruthams that are central to a solid relationship.